How to be a positive role model

Posted by on Apr 2, 2009 in Leadership | 2 comments

Are you a good person? Not only kids and teenagers need a positive role model in their lives. We all need someone to look up to. Someone that inspires us to great achievements. Someone to set an example to live by, even if they don’t know about it (but even better if they do).

Anyone can be anyone’s inspiration.

This means that you are someone’s inspiration, whether you know it or not. Live your life being a positive role model, you never know who’s watching you.

Your own role model can be anyone – international celebrity or your neighbor. It doesn’t matter who it is or if you know them in person.

The source of my inspiration always changes, depending on where I am in life. My family members, Nelson Mandela, my mentor, my co-worker, or even people I’ve only met once, just to mention a few.

How to find your role model

…and what to do when you’ve found him/her:

  1. Figure out which special traits you want to develop yourself.
  2. Find those special traits in other people.
  3. Choose your role model, someone to look up to and be inspired by.
  4. Watch, learn and then apply in reality what you want to achieve. Ask your role model how they do it, they will be more than happy to help you.

What if someone choose YOU as a source of inspiration?

Walk your talk and act with credibility. Present an ethical image. Live up to your own high set standards.

See yourself through the eyes of others – how would your own source of inspiration describe you? Or your neighbor or your family? Of course it comes down to the expectations of others, but communicate clearly and live up to your promises and you will be that positive role model.

And I beg you, tell the truth. Be honest with yourself and others. Do the right thing, always. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. No bullshit! …but use duct tape on your mouth when necessary.

Just listen more than you speak and treat everybody with respect and dignity. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view, just like you’re asking people to look at things from your point of view.


SMILE! Life is an amazing gift! You can be and do everything you want to. With the right amount of determination and hard work all your dreams are possible.

Help others to reach their dreams by being the person they can look up to and get the inspiration from. It will come back to you…karma is a powerful thing.


Tess is a location independent Swedish emarketing tigress, and the founder of For the Love of SEO and owner of JoomlaTips. Follow Tess on Twitter: @tessneale / @joomlatips / @fortheloveofseo and Google Plus: Tess Neale


  1. I am glad I found your page Tess, I am impressed and moved by your articles, they are all true and meaningful, truthful and derived from common sense… why is it so hard to maintain!
    I am motivated…..Thanks.

  2. Hi David,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Your words mean a lot to me!

    It doesn’t have to be hard to live up to your highest standards. Every decision you make, from the tiny ones to life-changing ones, determines how your future will look…and you are the only one that can take those decisions, so just stop for a second and think. Several times a day. Close your eyes, breath and focus on what you are doing, right now, right here. Get the balance in your mind back, that very moment. Then open your eyes, focus on your breathing, smile and you will see the world in a new light. It’s as easy as that.

    …and practice makes perfect. ;)

    Lots of love and light!
    – Tess

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